Sooooo close to being fully unpacked, I think if I don't flop too much I can finish (minus what I'm sure will be one box of "uhhh idk what to do with this" that will hang around for a bit, I feel like that's a mandatory part of moving) this upcoming weekend of mine
The part that always takes me forever is placing wall art but I have put up a few things as I've gone along, shout out to command strips
Yay Friday
One of my toxic traits is excepting rare circumstances I will not play a game in Early Access, I do not have the time or patience to play a game that might become a completely different game over time
It does not escape me that my ex started aggressively referring to herself as the "most femme" person in the friend group, juuuuust shy of saying she was the only woman, after I had top surgery
HMMMMMMM
Even before that she referred to me as a "butch" in a way I was uncomfortable with, and expressed such, since being a butch lesbian is a very specific slice of lesbian subculture that I don't really adhere to -- I am minimally "butch" and don't identify that way, although being called butch doesn't offend me in most circumstances
but um
I'm not your............man expy, why do lesbians do this
erikakaiser wrote: ↑Wed Jun 24, 2026 10:20 pmIt does not escape me that my ex started aggressively referring to herself as the "most femme" person in the friend group, juuuuust shy of saying she was the only woman, after I had top surgery
HMMMMMMM
she did this in the context of saying my friends were misogynistic for not continuing to include her post-break-up, btw, and implied I also am because I tend to make male characters
a woman referring to me as her "butch" is a major ick, not because being a butch is in any way bad, but because in a lot of tones it feels like you're punishing me with compulsory recategorization for not being the ideal of femininity
My gender is fancy boy and I consider myself a she/her, despite that, and to be honest I'm not even particularly masculine in most standard ways, so please do not continue doing what has been done to me throughout a lifetime, which is assume I want to be a man for stupid fucking arbitrary reasons like "has an undercut" or "feels uncomfortable in dresses"
I swear to god the most vocal-on-social-media-queers are also the ones who treat actual real life queer people like shit
Sophie wants to be a cutesy little expert on queer culture until her real-life girlfriend says "hey please stop treating me like a man" and other wild things like "top surgery does not automatically make me less 'femme' than you and please stop treating 'femme' and 'masc' like bonus but still extremely binary genders"