@mek thank you!! This is all genuinely very good and helpful information, I may reroll Gild (I saved their appearance so I think I can just, make a new identical thembo) and start over since I'm not very far in, and veer into the areas you mentioned. It helps a lot to know what areas to go to; I understand it's not the nature of games like Elden Ring to give you that information upfront, but it is hard when I'm used to having clearer markers for that sort of thing. Erikas intrinsically tend to follow instructions vs. fuck around and find out, so I probably wasn't exploring as much as I should.
I'm eager to play some more!! I probably won't be able to until this weekend but I'll let you know what my findings are Feel free to throw any more info you want to or think of in here, it is useful to me! Right now I'm looking up weapon types and it looks like curved swords and katanas are probably what I want, although I'll try daggers too. I usually don't like daggers in video games because Too Close but since you tend to be right up the average enemy's butthole while you're fighting anyways, it may not bother me. We shall see!