Ugh, I'm sorry the PVP is still bad. I was hoping the arena update would have made it better but it doesn't sound like it. FromSoft has always been Like That and it's one of the more frustrating parts of their design philosophy. Both trying to force PVP on you and the multiplayer system being just, needlessly complex. I think the open-world-ness of Elden Ring made it clunkier than it's been in other games
The complete lack of information on status effects within the game is probably my number one complaint about it, you have to look up what you're trying to find out online, and for some reason I don't think anyone's made a complete and easy-to-use guide for them. Fextra's is I think the most complete, but makes it unwieldy by doing things like listing temporary and permanent effects separately, effectively doubling the length of the list. This one has the main ones and is shorter and easier to skim for what you're looking for.
Truly, truly baffling why this information isn't in the game. A lot of armor items also affect your stats in some way but don't tell you, except as flavour text. I enjoy some opaqueness in my video games but this is ridiculous
I always forget how ranged weapons work because I only rarely use them, and I don't use crossbows at all, but I think which equipped ammo you use is based on which button you press? I think regular attack for the first ammo slot and special attack for the other slot? I know when I was first trying to figure it out I couldn't, because while it's a decent enough system it's not at all how any other game I've played would do that
I'm glad you're still enjoying it though! Are you going to keep trying to do multiplayer stuff or are you going to write that off?